“I just want someone to get along with,” said senior Sarah Levett.
She leaned forward at her desk, thinking of her future at Kalamazoo College and the possibilities of who her future roommate could be.
“I’m easy to get along with,” she said. “I’m cooperative.”
Levett as a Seaholm senior, is one of tens of thousands incoming freshman who are all wondering the same thing: how will I find the perfect roommate for me?
According to Director of Communications at the University of Michigan, Peter Logan, finding the perfect roommate is not too uncommon.
“The whole roommate process goes better than most people would expect,” Logan said.
Resident Education Leader at the University of Michigan, Julie Leos, agrees.
“There are roommate conflicts but there are also a lot of success stories that we’ve seen,” Leos said.
However when conflicts do arise it is usually common place disputes over things like cleanliness.
“I can be neat when someone else is neat and I can be messy when someone else is messy,” Levett said.
Contrary to Levett’s opinion, students have to be willing to compromise and settle their differences in order to have the best blind-roommate experience possible.
“It’s really important for students to try to learn how to resolve differences and learn how to deal with other people in a larger community,” Logan said.
Seaholm graduate Kelsey Jones, who roomed blind her freshmen year, agrees.
“It’s important to make boundaries with your roommate,” Jones said. “But make sure they’re flexible and work for the both of you.”
For students who do not want to room completely blind, colleges provide roommate surveys and chat groups.
University of Michigan has students who room blind take a survey in order to pair the students with those who have similar interests and values. Finding the best match ahead of time helps make for the least amount of conflicts possible.
Students take the survey and also have the option to join groups on social media, such as Facebook, to look at roommate options. Through looking at other incoming students’ profiles and chatting with them on social medias, one is able to determine a roommate that best suits them.
This process seems to work well for incoming students.
“There are people who remain friends for a really long time, throughout their life,” Julie said. “They become best friends.”
Jones, who will be a junior at Auburn university in the fall, suggests rooming blind over choosing to room with a friend.
“I had a bad experience with rooming with a friend,” Jones said. “Yet I had a positive experience with rooming blind and I would recommend to anyone looking to meet new people.”
There is hope for anyone looking to room blind. And according to Jones, there is proven success
However, if students find their roommate relationship being troubled by living disputes, those issues can always be resolved given the correct mindset.
“Common problems are all things that can be solved,” Leos said. “They just need to be talked about.”
These discussions can be mediated by the dorm’s Resident Assistants.
“We have to come in and say, well what is actually at the root of the problem,” Leos said. “And is there something we can repair within this relationship so you’ll be able to make it through the end of the year successfully with this other person.”
Students should go into the rooming-blind process open minded in order to ensure the best results.